Secrets Revealed: How To Be Charismatic
Dear friends,
Today I will be sharing with you the second method to develop charisma to be a more charming you...
2. BODY LANGUAGE
Our body can send even more messages than words can. Research has shown that over half face-to-face conversations are nonverbal. “Body language,” as it is called, often communicates our feelings and attitudes before we speak, using bodily gestures. It helps to project our level of receptivity to others. Hence, if we like to be liked easily, then we have to watch out the nonverbal messages we send to other people.
If you aim only to display positive expressions, you ought to know what are the positive body gestures, so that you can catch other people’s attention in a positive manner. To help you be aware and remember what these positive behaviors are, take N-O-T-E of it, as in Nod, Open arms, Touch, and Eye contact.
· Nod. A nod of the head indicates that you are listening and you understand what the speaker is saying. It usually signals your approval to the idea being talked about, encouraging him to continue talking. Indirectly, it is saying, “I hear you, go on!” By not nodding or by just staring blankly, you may appear to be lost in the discussion.
· Open Arms. This gesture suggests that you are friendly and available for contact, thus the phrase “welcoming with open arms.” During a conversation, open arms make others feel that you are receptive and listening. On the other hand, standing or sitting with arms crossed or very close to the body may mean being defensive and closed-minded. This way, people may think twice on approaching you as you appear to be in deep thought, or just don’t want to be disturbed.
· Touch. This touch refers to the warm handshake done by two people meeting for the first time. It implies that you are pleased to meet and know somebody personally. A warm and firm handshake is a safe way of showing an open and friendly attitude towards the people you meet. Indirectly, it says, “Hello! It’s nice to meet you.” Sometimes, at the end of conversations, handshakes are also carried out. This time, it may mean, “I’ve really enjoyed talking with you!” or “Let’s get together again soon!”
· Eye Contact. Do you believe that the strongest of the nonverbal gestures is sent through the eyes? In fact, the way you look at one person may entail various meanings. Direct eye contact during conversations, however, indicates that you are listening intently to the speaker and you are interested in what he is talking about. Remember that eye contact should be done naturally.
Body language plays a big role in communicating with other people. Even if gestures don’t directly convey a message, there will always be an idea the communicators might extract from them. This is the reason why body language is an essential element in developing charisma. To get other people to notice and like you, you’d have to know how your body should properly speak to other people.
Bisides following N-O-T-E (Nod, Open Arms, Touch, and Eye Contact) of the body language, here are other ways to consider when communicating with other people nonverbally:
1. Do not overdo the eye contact. Make direct eye contact to show you are engaged, open, and responsive to the conversation the other person is carrying out with you. However, too much eye contact can turn into a stare-down. That can seem intimidating, or just plain awkward.
2. Make use of your eyebrows. Let them dance along with your voice and the thoughts you’re trying to convey. The more animated your eyebrows are, the more outgoing, engaged, and friendly you’ll appear to other people. A positive thought is best expressed with a rising eyebrows, indirectly saying “I am open for you.” On the other hand, lowering them can imply negative thought.
3. Emote with the eyes. Widening your eyes implies interest and passion. This will signal that you’re accepting, welcoming, or reacting on what others are saying. On the other hand, narrowing the eyes may mean disbelieving, doubting, or disagreeing to the idea of the other person.
4. Combine your expressive eyes with a winning smile. A smile communicates friendliness. Eyes are expressions of emotions. When combined, they reveal attachment and so much interest on the other person. Their two features combined will equal more perceived friendliness than either one alone.
5. Hold your head up when you talk. When your head is up high, it shows confidence – you’ll seem to know what you are saying or doing. It shows a level of engagement and warmth, as well. On the other hand, if your head is down low, you’ll appear timid, shy, and having no interest in participating a conversation or an activity.
6. Maintain good posture. Proper poise and posture shows confidence, interest, as well as openness. Slouching is perceived as unfriendly because it indicates disengagement.
7. Never tap your feet when someone is talking. Tapping says, “Hurry up, I’m losing interest,” or “I’m bored. When are you going stop?” Unless you want to convey those ideas, don’t tap your feet in front of somebody who is speaking. Instead, go with your relaxed feet that are kinder and more welcoming.
8. Speak up, rather than be quiet. Silence can be unfriendly. Words break the ice, so start a conversation. When you begin to talk, you can form a connection with other people that will get rid of the irritation and awkwardness possibly arising out of the silence and you will find out how interesting they are. There’s no harm in breaking the silence and making new friends by speaking up.
Today I will be sharing with you the second method to develop charisma to be a more charming you...
2. BODY LANGUAGE
Our body can send even more messages than words can. Research has shown that over half face-to-face conversations are nonverbal. “Body language,” as it is called, often communicates our feelings and attitudes before we speak, using bodily gestures. It helps to project our level of receptivity to others. Hence, if we like to be liked easily, then we have to watch out the nonverbal messages we send to other people.
If you aim only to display positive expressions, you ought to know what are the positive body gestures, so that you can catch other people’s attention in a positive manner. To help you be aware and remember what these positive behaviors are, take N-O-T-E of it, as in Nod, Open arms, Touch, and Eye contact.
· Nod. A nod of the head indicates that you are listening and you understand what the speaker is saying. It usually signals your approval to the idea being talked about, encouraging him to continue talking. Indirectly, it is saying, “I hear you, go on!” By not nodding or by just staring blankly, you may appear to be lost in the discussion.
· Open Arms. This gesture suggests that you are friendly and available for contact, thus the phrase “welcoming with open arms.” During a conversation, open arms make others feel that you are receptive and listening. On the other hand, standing or sitting with arms crossed or very close to the body may mean being defensive and closed-minded. This way, people may think twice on approaching you as you appear to be in deep thought, or just don’t want to be disturbed.
· Touch. This touch refers to the warm handshake done by two people meeting for the first time. It implies that you are pleased to meet and know somebody personally. A warm and firm handshake is a safe way of showing an open and friendly attitude towards the people you meet. Indirectly, it says, “Hello! It’s nice to meet you.” Sometimes, at the end of conversations, handshakes are also carried out. This time, it may mean, “I’ve really enjoyed talking with you!” or “Let’s get together again soon!”
· Eye Contact. Do you believe that the strongest of the nonverbal gestures is sent through the eyes? In fact, the way you look at one person may entail various meanings. Direct eye contact during conversations, however, indicates that you are listening intently to the speaker and you are interested in what he is talking about. Remember that eye contact should be done naturally.
Body language plays a big role in communicating with other people. Even if gestures don’t directly convey a message, there will always be an idea the communicators might extract from them. This is the reason why body language is an essential element in developing charisma. To get other people to notice and like you, you’d have to know how your body should properly speak to other people.
Bisides following N-O-T-E (Nod, Open Arms, Touch, and Eye Contact) of the body language, here are other ways to consider when communicating with other people nonverbally:
1. Do not overdo the eye contact. Make direct eye contact to show you are engaged, open, and responsive to the conversation the other person is carrying out with you. However, too much eye contact can turn into a stare-down. That can seem intimidating, or just plain awkward.
2. Make use of your eyebrows. Let them dance along with your voice and the thoughts you’re trying to convey. The more animated your eyebrows are, the more outgoing, engaged, and friendly you’ll appear to other people. A positive thought is best expressed with a rising eyebrows, indirectly saying “I am open for you.” On the other hand, lowering them can imply negative thought.
3. Emote with the eyes. Widening your eyes implies interest and passion. This will signal that you’re accepting, welcoming, or reacting on what others are saying. On the other hand, narrowing the eyes may mean disbelieving, doubting, or disagreeing to the idea of the other person.
4. Combine your expressive eyes with a winning smile. A smile communicates friendliness. Eyes are expressions of emotions. When combined, they reveal attachment and so much interest on the other person. Their two features combined will equal more perceived friendliness than either one alone.
5. Hold your head up when you talk. When your head is up high, it shows confidence – you’ll seem to know what you are saying or doing. It shows a level of engagement and warmth, as well. On the other hand, if your head is down low, you’ll appear timid, shy, and having no interest in participating a conversation or an activity.
6. Maintain good posture. Proper poise and posture shows confidence, interest, as well as openness. Slouching is perceived as unfriendly because it indicates disengagement.
7. Never tap your feet when someone is talking. Tapping says, “Hurry up, I’m losing interest,” or “I’m bored. When are you going stop?” Unless you want to convey those ideas, don’t tap your feet in front of somebody who is speaking. Instead, go with your relaxed feet that are kinder and more welcoming.
8. Speak up, rather than be quiet. Silence can be unfriendly. Words break the ice, so start a conversation. When you begin to talk, you can form a connection with other people that will get rid of the irritation and awkwardness possibly arising out of the silence and you will find out how interesting they are. There’s no harm in breaking the silence and making new friends by speaking up.
Dear friends, start observing some good body gesture from today, will you?
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Wishing you young forever,
Janice H.
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